Monday, August 30, 2010

It's OK To Say 'NO'

In a busy period of discussions and negotiations on possible joint venture collaborations we've had to be pretty forceful on driving for a WIN/WIN or walking away from the deal/s... we've walked away.

Found this article sent by one Trevor Kettler which underscores the point:

The ability to negotiate successfully in today's turbulent economic environment can make the difference between being successful in your daily business activities or a failure.

Below are 10 ways that could assist in your client interactions.


1. Everything can be Negotiated. To be successful you need to be assertive and not afraid to challenge everything. Being assertive means asking for what you want without demonstrating anxiety or anger. Assertiveness is part of the Negotiation process.

2. Listen and let the other party do the talking. By listening, you are taking the role of a detective. Detectives ask probing questions and then shut up. The other negotiator will tell you everything you need to know - and more. All you have to do is listen.

3. Gather all the facts. Acquire as many facts about the other company, their product, their current situation, what's in it for them by having a successful outcome, what their options are, etc. You can't make accurate decisions without really understanding their position. The more information you have, the stronger your position will be.

4. Be willing to walk away. Never negotiate without options. It is when you become too dependent on a positive outcome that you lose your ability to say "No". By considering the option to walk away, will force the other party to make concessions that may be in your favour.

5. Be patient. The more you rush the more likely you will make a mistake. The side that has more time flexibility has the advantage. The greatest amount of patience causes the greatest amount of devastation to the other party as they assume you are not under any pressure to conclude the deal. They become pressurised to do so and in turn offer you more concessions with the incentive of you agreeing to conclude.

6. Aim for best outcome. Be an optimist - if you expect the best you will open the door to receive the best. Sellers should ask for more than they expect and buyers should offer less than they would want to pay. If you aim higher you will do better. A low expectation will result in a less satisfying outcome.

7. Keep the pressure focused on the other party. It is human nature to focus our energy on our own pressure by highlighting our own situation. This is often recognised by the other party and subconsciously we give the power to the other side. By focusing on our limitations, we miss the big picture. Our job as the detective is to recognise their worries and concerns and see how these can assist our cause.

8. Focus on meeting their needs. By understanding their perspective places you ahead of the game. By helping them to achieve their needs is a sure way of them coming back to do more business. This is not saying we must give in to all their positions. We must ensure that their basic interests must be fulfilled not necessarily their demands.

9. Never concede without getting something in return. Always create a tie-in, "I will do this if you do that". Without a tie-in, you are causing the other party to add more concessions. When you concede and they are not expected to reciprocate, they will feel entitled to your concession and will not be happy until you give up even more.

10. Never personalise their attitude. Never get sidetracked by personal issues that are unrelated to the deal. Focus on solving the problem. Trying to understand their behaviour can sabotage the outcome as they may be using dirty tricks to force a conclusion. This will only frustrate you even further and you could be falling into their trap.


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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The Grief Cycle & How it Relates To Accepting Change

In sharing the devastating news of an old friend's loss of his youngest son to cancer at the weekend, I was reminded of the work of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and the 5 stages of Grief that she identified.

Was interested to note that someone had extended her model to include it into an understanding of how one can accept change, especially when it comes along as a result of the dropping of a bombshell of negative news.

See: The Extended Grief Cycle


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Monday, August 23, 2010

LIFE - Can It Get Any Tougher?

This weekend we received the shock news that old family friends had lost their 21-year old son to a 5-month battle with cancer.

We're all heart-broken for them.

It's going to be tough saying good-bye this week.

Can life get any tougher than when experiencing the pain of losing a loved one... especially a child?

This, as my grieving cousin flies in from America, having lost her 16-year old son in a car crash during the last week of February. The grief and pain is still very raw. Will it ever dissipate?

Sometimes we just have to be GRATEFUL for the small things that affect us when compared to the giant challenges of others!


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Friday, August 20, 2010

LIFE - Sometimes YOU Just Have To Have A Sense Of Humour

In the immortal words of Robert Burns: "The best laid schemes o' Mice an' Men, gang aft agley." - To A Mouse

In order to get more time for myself to invest into WISDOMS... we sent our little grand-daughter to day-care last week
(granny & grand-pa are her full-time guardians). She's never been sick for even a day in two years.

Just four days, and hordes of snotty-nosed kids, later... and our entire family has been knocked-out with colds and flu since Sunday. It's Friday - 90% of what I was going to do this week has not been done.

And we're not looking like recovering soon.

As the Mexican's tend to say: 'Life, sometimes she is a beach'.

Deal with it!

I am not necessarily a believer that we are the architects of our own misfortunes... we are not bullet-proof... we are not immortal super-heroes.

Perhaps the Mexican's are right... sometimes LIFE just forces you to slow down a bit, lie in the sun... and just smile.. ;-)


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Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Every Cloud Has The Sun Waiting To BREAKTHROUGH

It didn't take Tony Robbins long to respond to the pulling of Breakthrough Insider by NBC after just two episodes airing.

Listening to Tony's response, shot on the shores of a Fiji island, we learn that NBC is in the process of re-organisation and perhaps looking for a new time slot to air the program to match the 2.9 million viewer demand.

We also learn that Oprah gets a similar viewership... go figure!

What interests me is the quality of the programming that NBC have chosen to replace it with.

Says something about the shallow nature of viewership demands for non-thinking (mindless?) entertainment on TV... doesn't it.

Hey... I like comedies and reality shows too. So is this a commentary on me?

The reality is that it is all about the numbers.

Tony Robbins deals with it well.


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Thursday, August 12, 2010

Even The BEST Suffer Setbacks

Was amazed to hear that Tony Robbins' Breakthrough Insider was pulled by NBC after just two episodes airing - see: Breakthrough with Tony Robbins: NBC TV Show Pulled, Cancelled

I believe Tony Robbins to be one of the best in his field... even the best suffer setbacks.

It will be interesting to watch how he takes this failure and turns it into a learning experience.


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Saturday, August 7, 2010

Wear YOUR Failures Like Badges Of Honour!

Was swimming at the gym on Friday when this thought entered my mind:

Wear YOUR Failures Like Badges Of Honour!

For some reason I was thrown back to thinking about an overly-arrogant business owner from my younger days who signed over franchise rights to myself because he 'claimed' I had stated on my CV that I was a varsity graduate.

Finding that I was making a small fortune from my rights, he wanted to find a way to take the rights back.

Amusingly, right from my early days I was always quite proud of the fact that a matric failure could persevere and pass matric in the end, and make his way to varsity only to be found out in his second repeat year... and still go on to do the things that I did in business.

I didn't know then that failure was a great learning experience... but I just found it to be honest and a show of integrity to state in my CV that I had spent a few years trying to get out of matric... and that my varsity career was incomplete.

Besides, I was able to highlight my sporting achievements - representing SA Universities at my favourite sport.

Seems that Mr. Arrogant was trying to claim that he misinterpreted that to mean that I had claimed a varsity degree - and that I had there by misrepresented my CV to him. All bull, of course. At best, he read what he wanted to read... at worst, he was just trying to diddle someone out of a contract (and failed... ;-)

To cut a long story short, this self-same individual was later jailed for his part in +- R250 million investor-fraud scam. Sometimes what one perpetuates with a lack of integrity catches up with one.

And... I have always gone on to broadcast my many years of trying to get out of matric and playing around and not succeeding at varsity (of which I am not proud) as critical learning experiences for myself.

So, for me, there has never been any shame in trying something (especially something new or out of your comfort zone) and not succeeding.

As long as YOU do it with the integrity of giving it YOUR best shot.

So here's a thought to explore:

Wear YOUR Failures Like Badges Of Honour!

Found this on Google search: Failure as a Badge of Honor


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Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Breakthrough - So YOU Think You've Got Problems?

Was just viewing the back-story episode to Frank and Kristen Alioto's breakthrough moments with Tony Robbins, and phew... the 44-minute episode misses tons of drama from 30-days of shooting the program that just couldn't be aired due to lack of time. Incredible!

Imagine celebrating YOUR wedding day and becoming a quadriplegic... making a breakthrough with Tony Robbins (Breakthrough Insider and click on Episode) and then... discovering that your mate has a brain tumor.

So YOU think that YOU've got problems, huh?

Here's what I'm doing right now... I've accepted the invite by Tony Robbins to participate in his amazing program.

Hi, It’s Tony, welcome to your Breakthrough Challenge course. Together we’re about to embark on a 6-week journey towards a more extraordinary quality of life. It's just 20 to 45 minutes each week, but I think you'll find that this small investment in yourself will give you huge returns.

Take your personal breakthrough challenge. I will post a new personal coaching session for you after every episode airs (don't worry I'll send you a reminder). In each session I will take the lessons from the show and teach you how to apply them in your own life in a very simple yet powerful way to create your own breakthroughs and help those you care for as well.

I look forward to our journey together… Let’s start!

Live strong and live with passion,

Tony Robbins

P.S. I really look forward to hearing your thoughts and comments on this program because we are utilizing this forum to refine this process into a course that we will be offering later to help people all around the world. Thanks!

YOU can participate too.

It's FREE... for goodness sake.

YOUR Personal Breakthrough Program with Tony Robbins.

What an opportunity!

I don't care who YOU are, or how together YOU are or not, how busy YOU are or not... this is an exceptional opportunity for a fascinating personal learning experience.

Go to Breakthrough Insider


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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Breakthrough - Confront YOUR Real Issues

I cannot exhort YOU more to get along to Tony Robbins' Breakthrough Insider - and click on Episode.

Here YOU will view the story of... 'Frank and Kristen Alioto, a couple whose wedding night turned tragic after Frank suffered a swimming pool accident that rendered him a quadriplegic. With Tony Robbins' help, Frank learns to overcome his limitations and reclaim his life and marriage.'

If those Breakthrough Insider files are taking up too much bandwidth (as they do at my end), perhaps follow these sub-standard links that someone appears to have hacked to promote their own product. The Tony Robbins' message and content is the most important:

Step 1. Re-write YOUR Story
Step 2. Confront YOUR Real Issues

Step 3. Discover Your Inner Strength
Step 4. Redefine What Is Possible

Step 5. Exceed Your Expectations

Step 6. Change Your Belief System

Step 7. Own Your Breakthrough


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